How to Get Over the Death of a Loved One

Knowing that death is simply a part of the circle of life does nothing to alleviate the pain and suffering that come with the loss of a beloved friend, family member or companion animal. The empty place in your heart and soul will never be whole again. Your loved one was special to you, and you feel that nobody can take that person's place in your life, and you're right. It takes time to get over losing someone special. Give yourself the time you need to heal.
Difficulty: Easy
Instructions

   1.  Establish a special tradition for the first year of holidays. When you have lost a loved one with whom you may have spent your favorite holidays, you may find it hard to face those days. Create a tradition that will help you look forward to the day instead of dreading it. Purchase a pretty candle; design a small shrine; spend the day at a special place such as a park, riverside or beach; or dine at a favorite restaurant. If you have something to look forward to, such as a candle-lighting ceremony or a favorite meal, you won't be approaching the day with consternation, but with peace of mind.
  
2.     Buy yourself a small but important gift on your birthday or gift-giving holiday. Make the purchase something special, such as a piece of jewelry, a little piece of decor for your home or an article of clothing you have been wanting. Splurge on this item and enjoy it as a gift from the person you are missing. This innocent yet helpful little fantasy is especially poignant if the item is something your loved one "would have just loved." Knowing there is a Christmas gift or birthday present from the person you have lost will give you some solace. Make this an annual tradition.
 
 3.      Attend a bereavement group or counseling session if you feel as if you are unable to recover. There are several stages of grief, but not everyone goes through all of the stages at the same time or even to completion. Being in therapy and sharing your feelings of loss is not for everyone, but it can be helpful. Know the signs of situational depression and seek help if you need it. Signs of depression, brought on by a situation or not, include insomnia, feelings of guilt, decreased energy and focus, deep sadness, and apathy, according to Johns Hopkins University.